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I’m Louise. Blogger. Wife. Designer of TruLu Couture Veils + Accessories.  If you’d like to know more, check out my bio.

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Friday
Jun152012

On Men and Houses

At 4:22 this morning, The Candyman started fighting off mutant zombies. It woke me out of a hard, dreamless sleep and I shook him until he woke, just so he would stop wrestling with the bed covers.

And there I laid, wide-eyed, with the worse case of buyers remorse I've ever had.

We put an offer down on a house.

And now my mind is about to explode.

I kept thinking to myself:

The house is too old.

I don't know how to pull wallpaper off of plaster walls.

Are the ceilings too low?

Will The Candyman keep the pool clean like he's promised?

How much does it cost to build a carport? A garage?

Is the driveway too steep?

I could NOT shut myself up. So when I finally gave up trying to sleep, I grabbed my phone and looked at all the pictures again. I felt better. The problem is I'm much too practical to let myself fall in love with a house. I'm behaving much in the same way as I did my past relationships.

He's too short.

He's too unemployed.

He's too needy.

He has ugly hands.

You know, the sort of stuff that tells you it's not the right guy.

But then you meet a guy whose eyebrows might be a little long, eats like someone is trying to steal his food and sleeps on an air mattress in an apartment that smells like curry. And yet through  those things strange and perhaps not on your list of 'must haves' in  man, he feels like home.

So maybe, just maybe I'm being a little judgemental about the length of this house's eyebrows because inside, it certainly feels like home.

What may not be the perfect house in terms of hardwood this and granite counter top that, it could be just perfect. And it will be ours.

Keep your fingers crossed that the sellers accept our offer.

 

 

Wednesday
Jun132012

Life via Hipstamatic.

I know. IknowIknowIknowIknowIknowIknowIKNOW!

I’m sorry. I suck.

I do.

But life gets in the way. And life is real, just as I hope this blog has always been. Me likes to keep it real.

So here’s what’s been going on. I’ll try to keep it brief by using bullet points. Otherwise, we’ll be here all day.

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And so it begins…..

  • New job. Whoa. Hm. I’ll try to explain. Joined at a VERY busy time for the department and jumped in, swimming. Then two weeks later, my boss is no longer with the organization. And then it was just me, drowning. But I’m treading water now, catching my breath. Things are getting there.
  • Ten of the 12 weeks I’ve been working like a crazy person? The Candyman and I have either been out of town, or had someone staying in our house.
  • My dad turned SEVENTY!
  • The Candyman turned THIRTY-EIGHT!
  • TruLu Couture is in a retail location, Lineage Bridal.

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Fun shoes at the Lineage Bridal grand opening.

  • We’re house hunting. This activity is inserted into random chunks of time.
  • We finally launched Charlotte’s CRAVE book, of which I was the city partner for several months.
  • I’ve reached maximum density and have decided it’s time to move my ass versus sit on it.

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Late night cupcakes for the new septuagenarian and father to T30SB.

The new day gig took me on a trip to L.A. last week (hence the radio silence) and while my days were packed with people trying to sell me things, I had the opportunity to take part in a few of my favorite things about Los Angeles:

Lindbrook Drive & Westwood Boulevard, Westwood Village, California

  • Avocados.
  • Morning runs to the beach.
  • Dinner in Westwood with an old friend.

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Some place tapas, Santa Monica, California.

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Santa Monica Pier, California

  • Beach air.
  • The San Fernando Valley.

Early morning, El Segundo, California.

Mingled somewhere in there was a day spent tossing my cookies (no, not preggers) and having a giant ass anxiety attack.

What?

You think I got off, scot-free? Unscathed from life altering events? Fuck no, dudettes. I crumpled, in true form. It was so typical of me and I was so unimpressed with my behavior. I took on too much, again. I let shit get to me again. I took it out on The Candyman again.

They say learning is a process. They also say that repeating a certain behavior over and over and expecting a different result is a form of insanity. Sometimes I get the two confused. They’re hard to tell apart.

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Home, sweet home. Dawn, the Charlotte Airport. Red-eye flights blow.

I feel the need for a spa day something awful! Who wants to join me?

Wednesday
Jun062012

When Dry Cleaning Won’t Do the Trick….

Those of you who are long-time readers will remember my bestie’s wedding I wrote about a year ago this past April. You know what happened? No? Let me refresh your memory. For more pleasant recaps go to Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.

So you know that there was wine spilt on silk. Precious, gorgeous Lhuillier silk.

Sigh.

My dear friend has spent $700 trying to get the gown clean with SOME success. She sent it to me to see what I could do. I did get lots of the stains to fade, but none are completely 100% gone. My friend desperately wants to resell the gown because except for the wine stains, it’s in pristine condition.

So I’m trying to rescue the gown. I’m going to add goodies to the skirt to cover the stains and make it a whole new gown! The pressure. Oh, the pressure.

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Wish me luck!

Monday
Jun042012

{Unfake Wedding Feature} January in Napa? Lovely.

Rachel and Dave are a wonderful couple who are from Santa Rosa, California. Their winter wedding (January 27, 2012) proves several things: in Northern California wine country, anything is possible!

The ceremony was quiet and intimate with only family members in attendance. The outdoor courtyard setting was so beautiful as they exchanged vows in front of a gentle, glowing fireplace.

A larger group of friends and extended family arrived later for a casual, fun, and laid back reception. Their decision to have their wedding on a Friday was  a smart move for the budget-conscious couple. I hope you'll see the love and creativity in their wedding!

Welcome to the Unfake Wedding of

Dave & Rachel

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The most important question: wedding night…did you or didn’t you?

Yes! And then my hubby fell asleep and I spent 20 minutes taking bobby pins out of my hair!

Please take the time to tell me all the vendors you used.

Photographer   T.J. Salsman Photography

DJ/Band  Canaan Sound & Light 

Reception Venue & Guest Hotel  Hyatt Vineyard Creek Hotel

Flowers  Groehe Florists

Dress  Brides n’ Maids,  Wtoo by Watters, Style - Zora

Hair/Make- Hair  Hair: Natalie Medeiros, Chop Shop,  Makeup – Flaunt Makeup Artistry

Tuxedos/Suits  Selix Formal Wear

Cake  Giorgi’s Cakes

Who was your favorite vendor and why?

Photographer TJ Salsman. He did an amazing job of capturing the ambiance of the evening. He worked with us on every possible detail and had an amazingly artistic eye. We told him we really wanted the unseen pictures that take place during the reception to be captured on film and he did so. Going through our pictures afterwards we were amazed to see moments he caught on film that we didn’t even know he was taking.

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Was there a “method to your madness” in choosing your vendors?

Not really, many of the vendors we chose were based on family and friend recommendations and/or previous experience as a guest at a wedding.

How long did you take to plan your wedding?

5 months.

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How many guests did you invite versus how many came?

We invited 112, 88 showed.

What was your budget?

We didn’t really set out with a strict budget, we just knew we didn’t want to spend a ton of money. We made sure we bargain shopped and compared prices amongst different vendors.

Did you include rings and/or the honeymoon in your budget?

They were included in the overall scheme of the entire wedding planning.

Were you over or under budget? By how much (you can give a percentage)?

As I mentioned, we didn’t have an exact budget. Total, we spent under $15,000 for everything,rings and honeymoon included.

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How large was your bridal party?

We each had one attendant and a ring bearer

Did you have favors for your guests? If so, what were they? How much did you spend?

Yes, we had small black boxes with our names and wedding date embossed on them. For 100 boxes full of candy: less than $120.

Did you include any special family traditions?

No, but we did have a remembrance candle lit at the reception for our family members that were no longer with us.

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What was your biggest day-of crisis and how did you handle it (or rather, not handle?)?

Didn’t have one! We woke up together, exchanged our wedding gifts with each other , I went to the grocery store for some last minute snacks to have in our room that night and then we started our pre-ceremony stuff such as hair and makeup.

What was your biggest wedding planning crisis and how did you handle it (or rather, not handle?)?

Three days before the wedding my florist called me in a panic because the flower mart didn’t have enough of the colored calla lilies I wanted. I told her as long as they had enough of that color for my bouquet and the boutonniere then she could have free-will to pick whatever other color would match for the rest of the bouquets, boutonnieres and reception decorations. The calla lilies she picked to compliment the original color were amazing and in the end it looked even better than just having the one solid color.

Who was the biggest pain in the ass on your wedding day?

I personally didn’t have any problems. But my soon to be sister-in-law missed her original flight and I know my husband was worried she wasn’t going to make it.

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What was the biggest waste of money that you loved?

I didn’t waste any of my money!

What was the biggest waste of money that you wish you’d passed on?

See above answer!

What did you love that was also the cheapest?

My hair piece. I found a beautiful feather and rhinestone fascinator on Ebay for under $20.

What was the most unexpected thing that happened (not necessarily a bad thing, just a surprise)?

That the venue opened up the bar early for our family free of charge since our ceremony went much quicker that we anticipated.

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What was the funniest thing that happened?

My 2 year old nephew who was the ring bearer serenaded us with a song after his mom (my sister) gave her matron of honor speech. That, and the fact that he stole the dance floor the entire night.

What was the most ooey-gooey, tear-jerking moment?

Neither of us are criers, but the fact that our ceremony was just us and our families allowed it to be super intimate.

Did you DIY? What parts?

Some: I purchased all the vases and did the reception set up and my friend made a card box that mimicked our favors.

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Where did you go on your honeymoon?

Cancun, Mexico.

If you could do it all over again, what would you change, if anything?

Nothing! It went according to plan and guests are still telling us how much fun they had!

 

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Congratulations to Rachel & Dave!

Thursday
May312012

On Being Published

Sometimes it just doesn’t happen the way it’s supposed to. Or, more aptly, I don’t know dick about how to be published.

It kind of makes me happy that I have a full-time gig again. The constant let down of managing your own business? Meh, perhaps my skin is just not thick enough.

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So you might remember when I went and did a photo shoot for Premiere Bride magazine? It was back in October, but I couldn’t post much about it because the shoot was for this April’s edition.

So April came and went. No magazine. I looked for it on stands and online and it was nowhere to be found. So I contacted the person who contacted me for the shoot.

“A change of direction.”

“Didn’t capture our vision.”

Sigh.

I’m sure you can figure out the rest.  I did get a few images, but not enough to warrant the full day of basically feeling a bit like the on-set stylist.

Photography by JMT Photo

Accessories by TruLu Couture.

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This little feather number sold!

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Um, for the record? That fascinator is NOT in her hair the way it should be. Someone moved it…and not in a  good way.

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What do YOU think?

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