Jonathon Campbell Photography
Friday, November 5, 2010 at 7:21AM
Louise in JCP, Jonathon Campbell Photography

Certain things distress me. Inequality is one. Republican Congressional majority is another.*

I think people are held less and less accountable for their actions these days. What we say and do and write every day? We should be accountable for that. All of us. I personally believe I have to be a lot more mindful about what I write here. That kinda sucks a little because I've got this self-installed filter. I wish I could bitch specifically about my job or a particular person, but that's not the right or nice thing to do.  I started this blog so that I could bitch about stuff. I thought it would be me bitching and maybe my MOH reading. But then others came....so came the filter. Bummer. But, I still love it and will keep on, filter or no.

When I write about stuff that frustrates me, be it the Republican majority, body image issues or conversely, how fab I think the new Anne Barge line is, it's a personal journey through whatever I'm writing about. I don't start a post with the beginning, middle and end in mind. I write in a stream of consciousness, good or bad. It's the bad that I have to be held responsible for. If I say something that hits people the wrong way, boy howdy do I hear about it. Y'all post comments and leave me emails and I think it's wonderful. There's even a little truth to people's nasty comments. Happily, I don't get many.

However, I have recently been a part of a chain of message board comments that leave me feeling very disoriented. Very. Basically, I rebuffed a claim made on a message board as false. I felt my claim was made in a postivie voice, but many disagreed with me. That's OK, as long as my point was being heard. But what I was surprised at was the venom at which my post was attacked. I attacked back (sheesh, can't take me anywhere, I swear) with some clarity to the accusations now made at ME.  

More rebuttals came back at me, several with merit, and I appreciate those comments. What I still didn't get is that there were people who jumped in with nasty comments to points, had these people actually READ the entire string, would have realized were clarified and now THEY just look like super-mean idiots. I mean, why do that to yourself?

This is what I'm just not getting. It is a lemming-like approach of "Hey, let me jump on this bandwagon and slam this person too!" just because all the "cool kids" are doing it. Ugh. No thank you. It's this false sense of power that the anonymity of the internet gives folks. I just can't stand it. Maybe because I know that what I put here is me, filtered or not. The most consistent thing people have told me about me and this blog is that I write just like I talk. I guess I do. Having been around the blogging community for a little bit now, I have found that's not always the case - sometimes MUCH to my dismay and total confusion. I recently found out that the husband of a husband/wife PI team was the voice behind their blog. I always thought it was the wife. I had to go back and reread like a bajillion entries using HIS voice and not hers. It was way weird.

I'm still trying to figure out if what I wrote on that message board was irresponsible. I don't think it was. I've read it, the original post that got me all fired up and all of the comments a few times now, just to make sure. I don't think I was. My return comments are not my most shining moments - I felt personally attacked and responded as such - I know better than that and can generally handle what folks got to give. But the topic is one I'm too close to, too personally defensive of. Makes it hard to be subjective.  And polite.

Soooo, I've decided to non-verbally make my point. If you look up at the tool-bar up there, the gray one? Well, I've added a new tab called MY WEDDING. Over the next couple of days I'll be uploading pictures. Like, almost ALL of the pictures by the fabulous Nashville Photographer Jonathon Campbell Photography. Hope you enjoy the pics. I sure as hell do.

 Jonathon Campbell Photography  

*I'd like to interrupt this post with this: I just watched a freakin' DEER cross the street in front of my house. I am SO in the suburbs.

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